I would like to appeal to all of you out there who find yourselves captivating a room with your tales of dating horror!!!

You know who you are :-0

In fact I have spoken to a lot of you! Keep reading cuz this week we I am going to let you in on the secret to what you can do to avoid adding to that library of stories that leave people staring at you in bewilderment, saying thank god I’m not single!!!!

I realize that it’s very easy to think that it is bad luck, or that there are no more good ones out there, that they are all taken… If that is the way you have been thinking, I would like you to do a quick mental check for me…. How does thinking this make you feel? PAUSE… It’s a very helpless feeling isn’t? Well…the fact of the matter is, you are actually in complete control!

OK here it is….EVERYTHING…That’s right, EVERYTHING is a manifestation of our thoughts. We create what we think about. Which also includes our dates

What are your thoughts around dating?…what expectations do you have when you go out on that date?

Are you thinking about all of the bad dates you have had lately, calling up memories and reliving each and every one of them in your mind? Are you thinking that you’ve cornered the market on duds?

Well, guess what folks? What you fear will appear. If you are expecting bad things to happen on your dates don’t be surprise when that shows up. If you are thinking that all guys are jerks, they will beat a steady path to your door!

What happens for most people is that they will look at their results, in this case, “all of my dates have been nightmares”, they allow that reality to take control and their thoughts become, “I always seem to date losers”, which puts them into an “I always date losers” state of vibration.

So the universe can only do one thing by law, and we are talking about the laws of attraction and vibration here…It will serve them up a steady buffet of losers.

“OK Mary, so how do I get off the lame train?” LOL

It’s very simple really… Change your thoughts. We have been gifted with the incredible ability to create pictures in our imagination. This is one of the most powerful tools we have to work with the Law of attraction!

Build a picture of what you want! What do YOU want in a partner? Include every detail. The more detail you give your picture the more powerful the intention and vibration you create.

What type of personality are you attracted to? How would you like to be treated? What music do they like, are they funny? What do they look like? Do they love the outdoors? Are they passionate? Do they like to dance?… Leave nothing out.

What you want to do next is see this perfect partner in your mind as though they already exist. See yourself with that person engaged in everyday activities and play that movie over and over in your mind. You can even visualize every aspect of the perfect date with your perfect partner!

What you are doing when you create these images is you are fooling your subconscious mind into believing that this is reality. When this happens you move your body into a state of vibration that is in harmony with all that you are visualizing. The Universe will take care of the rest.

One of the shortcuts that people will take is to identify someone that they know and are attracted to and they begin to picture themselves with that person. They run through their minds what it would be like to be with them, to spend their lives with them. Well if they focus long enough and hard enough they will more than likely attract that person to themselves and then BAM! They realize that the person they chose is not at all like the person they imagined. They have a laundry list of habits and character traits that they hadn’t bargained for. I recommend that you avoid the temptation to pick your mate from a lineup unless you know that person intimately and know what you are getting beforehand.

There is no better conductor in this orchestra than the Universe. If you take your time and choose what you want, rest assured that the universe will find the perfect match and lead them to you. Your job is to be aware when they make their appearance. It may very well end up being that person you know, but resist the urge and let the Universe make that call.

So your take away is to look for what you want, not what you don’t want. Build yourself your perfect partner and make them the leading man or lady in your mental motion picture and then get out your dancing shoes!

Have a great week!!
MaryC

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MaryC