This week on Mary's Moment I talked about Infidelity and what to do if your relationship has been affected by it and how to recover from it or prevent it from happening.

Ultimately you have a choice if this happens in your relationship, you make a decision to stay or to leave. One of the universal laws that we teach at Ignite is that there is balance in every situation so whether you leave the relationship or stay in the relationship it will be good and bad, it will bring pain and pleasure. It simply becomes a choice.

In our society, Infidelity is met with judgement, and if we get stuck in judgement eliminates the opportunity to understand what truly happened. So if if you get stuck and blame your partner maybe tell them that what they did was wrong, unforgiveable, a violation of trust and walk away from the relationship you can miss what is more than likely an important lesson for you. If you can somehow move past that judgement to understanding you will find the growth that is there for you in that situation and then you will be able to move forward with an clear and open heart with or without your partner.

Both of you need to look at what is missing in your relationship. People leave relationships to have affairs, because there is something missing in their relationship. Maybe it is the physical connection, the passion, maybe it is communication, love, understanding, authenticity, time, freedom, change. Whatever it is you need to ask yourself if there is a way to get back what is missing if you could. And whether what you really want is something you can have in this relationship. Are you asking your partner to be something or someone they are not?

Sometimes, your life path and growth takes you in a different direction from your partner and you become 2 disconnected lives living in the same home.

Always you have choices; the choice to stay and work on reconnecting and rebuilding the relationship or to leave with love, neither option is easy by the way. Infidelity is devastating but it can also be the catalyst to a new phase in a relationship, a rebuilt reconnected life together or a new separate journey.

You always have choices, the choice to learn and grow from your experiences or react based solely on the emotions surrounding the event. You may not get to choose whether or not infidelity enters your relationship but you get to choose how you move forward.

Your choices give you the ability to create your life intentionally knowing that whatever they are they will be good and bad, right and wrong. Just know that you will always be alright when you set aside judgment and emotion and make your choices from a place of love. Thanks for reading! To hear the Mary Moment live tune into Love & Lipstick on 99.7 on your radio Sunday nights after 8pm MaryC

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MaryC